WEBVTT 00:05.230 --> 00:11.290 These are just two of many books I've read of change makers in the last year and 00:12.370 --> 00:13.310 I've realized 00:13.830 --> 00:18.710 Just how much at times I feel connected with guys like Steve Jobs and Elon Musk 00:18.710 --> 00:23.270 Not always in a good way, but in a way that really made me think 00:23.270 --> 00:28.670 I'm gonna talk to you about why this is something that you might want to think about and 00:29.730 --> 00:30.570 it is my 00:31.150 --> 00:36.570 Birthday today, not just any birthday, but my 40th birthday and I'm kind of sitting here at the 00:37.830 --> 00:43.570 Halfway point you might say of life and saying who am I? Where do I go from here and 00:45.310 --> 00:47.690 Who do I really identify with? 00:50.950 --> 00:53.390 So it's on that occasion that I wanted to talk to you about 00:53.910 --> 00:59.350 Why I feel connected with people like this and maybe why you feel as I do 00:59.350 --> 01:03.930 Disconnected from a lot of folks and why that's okay and how you can find 01:03.930 --> 01:09.530 Your place in the world something that I've really been thinking about a lot in the year leading up to the big 01:09.530 --> 01:14.950 4-0 and those thoughts were augmented more by the fact that I had a 01:15.650 --> 01:19.750 Friend a business contact who didn't make it to 40 01:19.750 --> 01:23.850 He was not much older than I was and he passed away earlier this year 01:23.850 --> 01:26.470 I'm gonna share lessons I learned from that in a moment, but every birthday 01:26.470 --> 01:31.430 I come to you in the recent years and should have you a message of where I'm at emotionally 01:31.970 --> 01:38.670 What we do here is so much more than just tax rates and passports those are the strategic things, but at our core 01:38.670 --> 01:39.630 I realized we're all 01:40.470 --> 01:45.750 People and I talked at No Med Capitalist live this year about how I think we're all seeking love 01:45.750 --> 01:51.510 We're all seeking to be heard. We're all seeking to be understood and when I read Steve Jobs 01:51.510 --> 01:53.050 There's things where you kind of cringe 01:53.670 --> 01:54.710 You say, oh, yeah 01:54.710 --> 02:02.010 Wow, that guy was tough and then you realize there's times when I'm tough and it causes you to evaluate as you become more successful 02:02.730 --> 02:07.450 What these guys were really about and what separates them from the average person? 02:07.810 --> 02:11.790 But I I almost hope in every video I make every year. I hope I look back at the one previously 02:11.790 --> 02:17.530 I hope I cringe just a little bit the same way some people might cringe at some of the stuff in these books 02:17.530 --> 02:21.950 I hope that what I was saying a year ago and the thing that I said two years ago and the thing 02:21.950 --> 02:23.810 That I said three years ago that I've grown a lot 02:24.530 --> 02:32.330 it has been and some of you have been here for a journey where I think a lot of No Med Capitalists go through it where you're not entirely sure 02:32.330 --> 02:33.850 where you fit in 02:33.850 --> 02:36.190 you struggle with 02:36.190 --> 02:42.910 Am I loved? Am I respected? Do people understand who I am? 02:44.150 --> 02:44.710 and 02:44.710 --> 02:51.550 It is cathartic in a sense to read about Steve Jobs or Elon Musk 02:51.550 --> 02:56.710 And to realize they are even more in a minority of a minority than I am I grew up and 02:58.330 --> 03:00.990 Probably had a different outlook even as a kid than most of their kids 03:00.990 --> 03:06.430 I wanted to start a business from the time I was 12 years old back before it was cool and people would make fun of me 03:06.430 --> 03:11.770 14 15 16 years old. Why do you want to start a business? You know, that seems stupid. You're a geek. I 03:11.770 --> 03:17.370 Was a minority back then and I realized as you know, Elon Musk does a lot 03:17.370 --> 03:23.910 Talked about in the book channel that into building something that hopefully has some impact on the world 03:23.910 --> 03:30.610 But I was a minority back then. I am a business person. I am someone who lives in different places 03:30.610 --> 03:33.730 I am someone who doesn't feel a great affinity towards 03:33.730 --> 03:37.950 Anyone particular place and maybe has a certain affinity to places that I've adopted 03:37.950 --> 03:43.170 But certainly doesn't have a great affinity to where I'm from and so if I look over my life 03:43.170 --> 03:44.270 And you can probably do the same thing 03:44.270 --> 03:50.610 I'm a minority of a minority of a minority and yet you look at people who have built great empires and 03:50.610 --> 03:56.510 They're even more so and what it's taught me to do is to embrace that being a minority of a minority and 03:56.510 --> 04:01.730 Changed the way I look at again what we talked about at Nomadic Capitalist live the concept of 04:02.310 --> 04:08.130 Finding love and being heard and being understood. I was having kind of a self-help conversation 04:08.130 --> 04:13.810 Early this year. I'm not a big fan of labels. I don't really like a lot of labels 04:13.810 --> 04:17.970 Certainly, we've talked about the label of nationality. Not a big fan of that don't know what that adds 04:17.970 --> 04:22.990 I like labels that at least we can control things that you do. I'm a builder. Here's what I built 04:22.990 --> 04:26.110 Here's what I do. Here's what I stand for. Here's my vision. Here's my values 04:26.110 --> 04:29.290 Those are the labels I want to attach myself the people who tonight 04:29.290 --> 04:32.970 I will spend time with 17 people who are flying in 04:32.970 --> 04:39.890 From I think 15 different cities to spend time with me friends. I've known from anywhere from a year to 20 years 04:40.430 --> 04:42.770 Being in their inner circle them being in mind 04:42.770 --> 04:47.730 That's a label I want to attach to myself because I control that and that reflects who I am as a person 04:47.730 --> 04:49.270 But I've never liked labels otherwise 04:49.270 --> 04:54.870 But here's a word that I I learned probably later than many people is the word neurodivergence and I 04:54.870 --> 04:59.470 Never wanted to attach that word to myself and I don't suggest that you do it either 04:59.470 --> 05:03.630 But it was something to think about and I talked to a handful of friends of mine with I how that seems like them 05:03.630 --> 05:11.170 This idea that your brain is wired differently not the way I know Gen Z. I think 50% of Gen Z thinks they're neurodivergent which 05:11.890 --> 05:18.850 Perhaps makes them different forms of neurodivergent or perhaps just make some of them neuro typical that they all think they're 05:18.850 --> 05:22.130 Divergent not to say that everyone in Gen Z certainly thinks like that 05:22.130 --> 05:26.750 But some of us are just wired differently. It's a question of nature versus nurture something 05:26.750 --> 05:34.450 And I think about it a lot because I think it shapes who we are on our own nomad accomplice journey the idea of are our brains wired differently 05:34.450 --> 05:37.410 I do not physically understand 05:37.410 --> 05:42.690 The idea that you're born in a place and that if it doesn't serve you in some way 05:42.690 --> 05:46.270 You're supposed to attach that to yourself as a badge for the rest of your life 05:46.270 --> 05:49.050 You're supposed to identify it if you don't want to be there 05:49.050 --> 05:55.010 You're supposed to be shamed by all the other people that perhaps is a form of neurodivergence what I learned 05:55.010 --> 06:02.790 Hearing about that word and researching that word one of the new many kind of psychology words where I get everything has a label was 06:02.790 --> 06:06.550 Maybe some of us are just wired a little bit differently and that is okay 06:06.550 --> 06:09.830 And maybe it's even physical and we should have love for each other 06:09.830 --> 06:13.150 It taught me to have a bit more understanding for folks who want to stay in one place 06:13.150 --> 06:19.090 And I think over my many many years of living my own nomad accomplice journey. I've increasingly come 06:19.890 --> 06:21.910 To respect people making their own choices 06:21.910 --> 06:25.890 Most people don't choose to live the way that we do I think a lot of them choose 06:25.890 --> 06:30.090 Just because they're used to where they're from they're afraid of making a change 06:30.090 --> 06:34.530 But some they just they're just happy doing what they're doing and I have to respect that 06:34.530 --> 06:39.730 But I think that drawing attention to folks like perhaps yourself and myself 06:40.970 --> 06:46.310 That do wonder why is it that being born in a certain place? 06:46.470 --> 06:51.210 I was born at 955 in the morning today 40 years ago in Cleveland, Ohio 06:51.210 --> 06:56.570 What does that say about me other than it was a moment in time? It was 06:57.130 --> 06:58.450 largely left to chance 06:59.190 --> 06:59.690 people 07:00.510 --> 07:03.130 Travel and give birth to give birth while traveling 07:03.690 --> 07:09.410 More often than you'd think and as I've told you before I was born just across a lake from Canada 07:09.410 --> 07:15.750 I have what I have identified entirely differently with my life be entirely different if I had been born across that lake and it really 07:15.750 --> 07:21.190 You know caused me to to question those the kinds of questions that the Steve Jobs 07:21.210 --> 07:27.590 The Elon Musk's ask and when they're successful at that level to where Walter Isaacson is writing a book about them 07:27.590 --> 07:30.490 People kind of accept all right the guy was yelling at his staff 07:30.490 --> 07:33.430 But he was a visionary and we should listen to him and oh my goodness 07:33.430 --> 07:40.370 He said people don't know what they want until you give it to them kind of citing Henry Ford, but there's plenty of people 07:41.530 --> 07:45.630 Plenty of those of us who aren't multi-billionaires plenty of those of us who don't run companies that impact 07:46.550 --> 07:53.550 Billions people around the world who may have some of the same thoughts Alex Hermosi talks about the idea that if you want to be Steve Jobs 07:53.550 --> 08:00.530 He probably didn't have something you didn't he didn't have something that you have and I've questioned myself 08:00.530 --> 08:03.670 What is it that I have that holds me back to where I can't be at that level? 08:04.030 --> 08:07.390 Certainly some of us are gonna have a great impact on the world for me 08:07.390 --> 08:08.510 It's no met capitalists for you 08:08.510 --> 08:14.130 Maybe something else doing something doesn't reach billions of people but still makes you wealthy like Alex Hermosi as well 08:14.130 --> 08:18.910 I reference him often. I think one of the the guys that most aligns with the way 08:18.910 --> 08:22.650 I see the world even though he lives in the United States and we disagree on that 08:22.650 --> 08:27.030 I also think and my personal philosophy that aligns with no mad capitalist is 08:27.730 --> 08:33.870 You don't have to take all the risks that these guys took to get to the billions and to 08:33.870 --> 08:39.670 Be on such a public stage and in many cases to be some maligned to be some misunderstood by so many people 08:40.210 --> 08:46.870 There's a path to certainty of building a business that is impactful and makes you $50 million or $100 million that to me 08:46.870 --> 08:50.530 It's pretty straightforward, especially if you live the nomad capitalist lifestyle 08:51.030 --> 08:55.650 What's interesting is asking yourself how much do you align with the average person and 08:56.450 --> 09:03.810 Their views the average person who has a job that's perhaps not particularly creative one that perhaps don't particularly like 09:04.450 --> 09:09.410 They live in one place. Maybe they like it. Maybe they don't there's someone who perhaps complains about the upcoming election 09:09.670 --> 09:13.390 And what that means for their life whatever that election may be whether it's in the u.s. Or anywhere else 09:13.390 --> 09:19.230 They think politicians are going to change their life. They say things like I didn't get my girlfriend pregnant 09:19.230 --> 09:24.070 It just happened and they sort of lack of responsibility. They lack of self-awareness 09:24.070 --> 09:28.770 They think life just happens. How much do you have in common with them? 09:29.510 --> 09:33.250 And how much do you have in common with people who grabbed life by the throat? 09:33.710 --> 09:38.910 Bended the world to their vision into their values and created something great and the expense was 09:39.470 --> 09:47.190 Despite acclaim despite great riches most people don't understand them and people criticize that which they don't 09:47.190 --> 09:49.810 understand I 09:49.810 --> 09:54.890 Do think you're at a disadvantage of being a nomad capitalist if you weren't the most popular person in school 09:54.890 --> 09:59.510 I think that I've had a theory the more the more girls you went out with in high school 09:59.510 --> 10:04.310 Maybe an university else but really in high school in the formative years really shapes things 15 10:04.310 --> 10:07.970 That's when you think the best music is generally the best music you listen to at 15 16 10:07.970 --> 10:11.950 That's always the best to you and I would imagine how popular you were 10:12.730 --> 10:18.850 In the dating world and just in general shifts or you know shapes how you will view the world as an adult 10:18.850 --> 10:22.290 I you know talk to people who work here who they ask me 10:22.290 --> 10:24.570 Hey, what's your advice for my my 18 year old brother? 10:24.710 --> 10:31.350 My advice is to focus on being the best version of who you truly are not caring what anybody else thinks not chasing after 10:31.950 --> 10:34.890 The opposite sex building out who you really are 10:34.890 --> 10:41.530 Because that's going to put you in a place to be truly happy and successful and yet people are going to understand you and so my journey 10:42.410 --> 10:48.730 Over 40 years and I would say most successfully over the last year of realizing that I'm comfortable with my vision and values 10:48.730 --> 10:51.710 I'm happy with what I've done and yet 10:51.710 --> 10:56.650 I've built something that whether it's nomad capitalist live an event that most people who run events don't understand 10:56.650 --> 11:01.010 How it works because I built it the way I wanted to and I guess I saw it a little bit differently 11:01.630 --> 11:06.430 Most people in our industry don't understand how our business works because I built it for what I wanted 11:06.430 --> 11:12.650 And so anyone who applies to work for us from our industry 99% of the time they don't work out because we do things differently 11:12.650 --> 11:17.070 It's unique. I'm not saying that it's a badge of honor. I'm not saying it's a great thing 11:17.070 --> 11:19.830 I'm saying I probably in many ways I've over complicated my life 11:19.830 --> 11:25.230 But I've done it the way I wanted to and yet I do understand that most friends most potential 11:25.730 --> 11:30.850 Relationships of any kind aren't gonna understand a guy who lives in different places and levers one up and one down 11:30.850 --> 11:36.750 And yet what I'm proud of today is having those 17 people coming from 15 different cities 11:36.750 --> 11:39.630 So I've met over the years who some of them I met in the United States 11:39.630 --> 11:43.510 And they stayed with me proof that you can have friends that stay with you most of my friends in the US 11:43.510 --> 11:46.590 We don't talk anymore because they don't understand that without proximity 11:46.590 --> 11:51.290 You can't still talk and share ideas and share values and and build each other up 11:51.290 --> 11:53.530 but some of them have and 11:53.530 --> 11:55.990 some friends I've been along the way and I 11:58.110 --> 12:03.090 Realized most people aren't gonna understand that they say how can you possibly of the kind of lifestyle of a nomad capitalist like myself? 12:03.230 --> 12:06.650 Where I'm in different places all the time. How do you have any friends? 12:06.850 --> 12:11.650 How is your life not lonely and yet how many 40 year old guys have 17 people coming from across town? 12:12.010 --> 12:13.730 let alone flying in from 12:14.710 --> 12:16.750 around the world I 12:16.750 --> 12:23.990 Think that for me being unpopular to become what in a sense? I've never thought of it this way, but somewhat popular 12:25.110 --> 12:29.990 people people want to come it kind of crept up up me and realizing that 12:31.010 --> 12:35.490 Realizing that all those years of what they would call neurodivergence actually 12:36.370 --> 12:39.550 shape something of a life that I wanted to become and 12:40.710 --> 12:45.490 I think it was that acceptance that I want you to have that the vast majority of people aren't going to agree 12:45.490 --> 12:48.210 They're not going to think that having a second passports a good idea 12:48.790 --> 12:52.850 But for me there's a sense of peace that comes from having options not just that I want 12:53.430 --> 12:57.990 Strategically to be ahead, but I feel what I've come to learn and kind of the self-help sphere 12:57.990 --> 12:59.890 Here's where I feel it. I feel it right in the chest 12:59.890 --> 13:03.290 You can figure out where you feel when you're in fight or flight mode 13:03.290 --> 13:08.450 You can feel that where do you feel when you just freeze and you can't move because you're so frustrated with everything 13:08.450 --> 13:10.550 And you feel like life is overcoming you 13:11.870 --> 13:13.450 Doing that has helped me to really 13:14.190 --> 13:14.590 understand 13:15.790 --> 13:18.630 what motivates me over the last year or a year and a half and 13:19.330 --> 13:22.330 The permission slip I told you I got a permission slip from my dad 13:22.330 --> 13:28.550 Gilbert you're treated best I got that when I was a kid and I'm now today at 40 give myself a permission slip that I should have 13:28.550 --> 13:35.070 Give myself all these years live for yourself. It doesn't matter if other people understand you build your tribe 13:35.070 --> 13:41.330 That's one of the reasons people love coming to nomad capitalist life as we had 800 people who are all part of their tribe 13:41.330 --> 13:46.850 And we throw out of information to people so much so they say we want more time to meet with these people who are perhaps the 13:46.850 --> 13:54.210 Only people we know who are like us and think like us and I'll bet if you went and you measured people's brains somehow 13:54.210 --> 13:57.430 You'd probably find a lot more neurodivergent people in the average 13:58.070 --> 14:04.030 population sample at nomad capitalist life, and I'm proud today to have built something 14:04.730 --> 14:10.770 like that, but I was talking to my dad at nomad capitalist life about acceptance and 14:11.770 --> 14:16.610 I've watched him at my age be someone who was 14:16.850 --> 14:22.030 Frustrated by stuff in his business and who wanted to do the right thing by people so much 14:22.030 --> 14:26.790 It made him it anxious at times and is teaching me the lessons of yes doing the right thing 14:26.790 --> 14:32.290 But accepting yourself more and realizing there's always someone who's gonna get more hate than you do 14:32.290 --> 14:36.990 There's always someone who's gonna be more misunderstood than you are Steve Jobs is known as this bad guy 14:36.990 --> 14:38.410 He was yelling at screaming to people 14:38.410 --> 14:41.770 But I remember what I really connected with not to say this is a great thing 14:41.770 --> 14:49.590 But when when I read Steve Jobs got a sense of catharsis that he felt misunderstood by the world and the cathartic thing was 14:50.190 --> 14:56.290 Being upset with people. Is that a good thing to do? No, but that awareness and driving that self-awareness 14:57.130 --> 15:04.470 Connected with me in a sense where I'd like to be more connected with who understands me 15:05.170 --> 15:07.170 Detaching myself from those who don't 15:07.170 --> 15:13.830 Those who are pretty close building stronger bonds and trying to compromise and trying to understand where they're coming from to 15:14.510 --> 15:18.230 But understanding that people who perhaps think differently as we do 15:19.090 --> 15:24.470 Have certain things that drive catharsis was a moment of self-awareness for 15:25.330 --> 15:28.310 Helping me connect better with folks. I 15:28.310 --> 15:30.250 Can do that and say 15:30.930 --> 15:36.210 I'm comfortable that what I'm doing here is is right and yes, these guys aren't angels 15:36.210 --> 15:42.990 But you know what most people aren't angels and I'd rather be the person who built what I believed in 15:43.810 --> 15:48.810 What it also drove for me, and I've talked with us in terms of places to live. We host nomadic Albus live in Malaysia 15:48.810 --> 15:51.650 I think one thing you can say about Malaysian people is they're kind 15:51.650 --> 15:55.370 We recently did a collab with mr. Beat he published a video 15:55.370 --> 16:01.130 I saw hundreds of comments from people in Malaysia not a single one was negative. We've talked about Malaysia 16:01.130 --> 16:04.050 I don't know that a single person here has been negative 16:04.050 --> 16:08.870 We're gonna show you how to live like a king in Kuala Lumpur in just a few days from now 16:08.870 --> 16:13.270 And I hope you'll watch that because Malaysia is a place that has not polite not nice 16:13.270 --> 16:19.170 But truly kind people and that's something I've been telling you off and on over the last year or two that you want to optimize for it 16:19.170 --> 16:21.170 something that I aspire to be more of and 16:21.950 --> 16:24.370 What you kind of see through the gritty 16:24.370 --> 16:28.530 Characterizations of some of these are not just Steve Jobs not just Elon Musk. I've read books 16:28.530 --> 16:32.350 You know Patrick bet David don't agree with him and everything but reading his business perspective 16:32.350 --> 16:36.030 I said, yeah, I agree with this guy a lot more than the people that I'm talking to sometimes 16:36.030 --> 16:37.250 I got to level up 16:37.250 --> 16:42.090 But what you see sometimes through these guys grit and through the through the rough edges is you see 16:42.090 --> 16:48.190 Lights of kindness shining rays of kindness where they wanted the right thing by people and they want people to win 16:48.830 --> 16:50.550 Because at their core 16:51.070 --> 16:53.750 They're not in a perhaps evil people 16:54.350 --> 17:00.030 They have a vision and they are ruthless in executing that and that's how I've built the life that I have 17:00.030 --> 17:02.130 Overseas if you just try and go over see I got a friend of mine 17:02.130 --> 17:06.230 He said I don't know how you have you know all the bank accounts you have I try to open one bank account 17:06.230 --> 17:11.610 I blow my top I was ruthless and executing my vision and building the nomadic countless life 17:11.610 --> 17:16.150 That I have myself with the bank accounts the residences the passports the homes. I cared about that 17:16.730 --> 17:19.570 Above pretty much all else and then when people started asking me for help 17:19.570 --> 17:23.530 We developed the business nomadic countless where we help seven eight nine figure entrepreneurs 17:23.970 --> 17:26.170 Do what I've done from that unique perspective 17:26.170 --> 17:28.770 Not just because we sell passports off the back of a truck 17:28.770 --> 17:33.190 But because we want to change people's lives because there is a certain light of kindness that I'd like to have 17:33.690 --> 17:36.570 Shining through that I actually care that you protect yourself 17:36.570 --> 17:41.510 I don't want to sell you a passport the same way when people just don't throw up at nomadic countless live every event has some 17:41.510 --> 17:44.950 Of those people I'm actually upset because even though they don't get a refund 17:44.950 --> 17:48.610 I actually want them to come and get what they paid for because I want them to have the transformation 17:48.610 --> 17:52.150 I want them to be in the room and you see that from these guys that yeah 17:52.150 --> 17:55.790 They screamed at people but actually one of the best for people more so than perhaps in the average 17:56.550 --> 18:01.950 Neurotypical person who often is focused on the crabs in the bucket mentality and holding people down and 18:02.730 --> 18:04.050 Making sure the people don't get ahead 18:04.050 --> 18:09.770 I've seen that in building a company everyone's going to change certain people in the company because somebody gets to a certain level 18:09.770 --> 18:11.650 They can't go any higher. You're happy to keep them there 18:11.650 --> 18:16.910 But they don't like the fact that other people may pass them by and you're leveling up and you're moving on and 18:17.430 --> 18:21.130 What I see a lot of the successful people I read about is they don't want to hold people back and yet 18:21.130 --> 18:26.130 How many people tell you don't leave your country don't hire people overseas don't get that second passport 18:26.130 --> 18:28.570 Don't pay less in tax because you're leaving people behind 18:28.570 --> 18:32.510 People who in many cases would leave you behind in other ways 18:32.510 --> 18:39.130 I can tell you people who work in my company generally always try and come from position of kindness 18:39.130 --> 18:44.990 Not always niceness, but kindness and making sure they have the best opportunities when every single one of them do that for me 18:44.990 --> 18:46.850 I don't know and that's not the goal of how I run 18:47.510 --> 18:48.990 My values in my life 18:48.990 --> 18:51.250 But if you look at the people who are holding you back in yours 18:51.250 --> 18:54.710 How many would do the things but they tell you oh, you're abandoning us 18:54.710 --> 18:59.390 You're doing the wrong thing. How many of them don't see your shining lights of kindness that you're trying 18:59.850 --> 19:02.610 To live your life for you and have a better impact on the world 19:03.170 --> 19:08.690 And I think we all ought to learn from the visionaries that have been maligned perhaps 19:08.690 --> 19:10.790 fairly in some cases and learn 19:11.330 --> 19:12.390 Where were they kind? 19:13.090 --> 19:14.990 What were they ruthless in and 19:14.990 --> 19:21.230 How are we connected with them because I think probably we're connected with them a lot more ways than with the average person 19:21.230 --> 19:27.970 I think it's a lot easier to live your passion as a nomad capitalist because you have more resources to do it because you free yourself 19:27.970 --> 19:30.990 From those labels of I have to be here in the United States 19:30.990 --> 19:36.290 I have to be here in my country freeing myself from living in the culture in the society that I grew up in 19:36.710 --> 19:40.730 Just open my mind to a lot more things and think you don't realize that until you actually make the move 19:40.730 --> 19:43.430 We have a lot of clients that come to us and ask for a plan B 19:43.430 --> 19:46.630 Give me the passport give me the bank account and give me the trust that's great 19:46.630 --> 19:47.430 We're happy to help them 19:47.430 --> 19:54.010 But I think you don't know how the plan A feels in the same way you can have the fight or flight tension that for me comes 19:54.010 --> 19:58.870 In the in the chest for you it may come somewhere else the stomach or the shoulders or somewhere else 19:58.870 --> 20:03.870 there's an inverse to that where you get your first second passport and you get a rush of 20:03.870 --> 20:09.970 calm it comes over you or you live in some place where you realize wow these people are kind and I 20:09.970 --> 20:14.330 Can't interact the way that I want and I'm free and there's a rush that comes over that 20:14.990 --> 20:17.730 at 40 years old what I've decided is 20:19.230 --> 20:21.570 My values are running something 20:22.090 --> 20:24.730 Standing for something until the bitter end. I 20:24.730 --> 20:27.090 Respect people who build companies and sell them 20:27.090 --> 20:32.070 There was a time that I thought that's the route that I would go down because I 20:32.070 --> 20:33.790 Didn't entirely understand 20:34.330 --> 20:39.230 Sometime the lack of connections that I had in the business and I took some things personally that I shouldn't have 20:39.230 --> 20:41.390 One of the things I've worked on in the last year and a half 20:41.390 --> 20:45.090 I think a lot of business owners gonna work on is realizing people who work for you aren't against you 20:45.090 --> 20:49.450 They're probably just a lot different and understanding more of where they're coming from it's gonna help you a lot 20:49.450 --> 20:54.810 You're always gonna be a step ahead of them. You're always gonna be a bit more like Steve Jobs. They're allowed to be who they are 20:54.810 --> 20:59.970 It's up to you to adapt. I think back when I was less connected with that 20:59.970 --> 21:02.190 I said, yeah, you know what? Maybe I'll get out at some point 21:03.010 --> 21:06.330 And a couple years ago. I said hey, we're gonna make few I'm gonna make fewer videos 21:06.330 --> 21:10.070 And we're gonna bring in the team and we've kept to that we make fewer videos here 21:10.070 --> 21:12.770 No matter countless r&d channel they make their videos 21:12.770 --> 21:16.870 We put up the same number of videos before just happens to be on two channels, but I felt like at a time 21:16.870 --> 21:23.870 Hey, I I want to step back and it was connecting with the fact for me of wasn't always easy for the visionaries 21:23.870 --> 21:27.990 In fact, it was a hell of a lot harder for them. They got a lot more crap than I do 21:27.990 --> 21:32.350 You know, they kept going with the mission Steve Jobs was kicked out of Apple and when he got to come back 21:32.350 --> 21:38.990 He did rebuilt it into something terrific. I have respect for the guys who build and and sell their companies and their serial entrepreneurs 21:38.990 --> 21:42.650 But for me the idea of being worn buffeted in your 90s 21:42.650 --> 21:46.910 And you built something over 60 years and you own it and you're proud of it 21:46.910 --> 21:51.110 And you're passionate about it and your values never changed to me. That's a lot more valuable 21:51.770 --> 21:54.270 Then what would I do if I ever sold Nomad capitalist? 21:54.470 --> 21:58.650 I would go out I guess and build some kind of holding company where I'd buy a bunch of businesses 21:58.650 --> 22:03.410 I don't really care that much about it. I'd have fun building businesses and running processes until I didn't 22:03.410 --> 22:05.270 Until I got bored and moved on to the next thing 22:05.270 --> 22:11.690 I think that the Nomad capitalist lifestyle in a way that some people won't ever experience because they never go beyond the plan 22:11.690 --> 22:17.290 B is realizing that you can more so live your passions when you have the freed up mindset of 22:18.190 --> 22:19.670 Being a place where you can feel that way 22:19.670 --> 22:26.650 I connected with that more by being overseas and it's helped me to leave a lot of the self doubt behind 22:26.650 --> 22:32.290 In connecting with the fact that people just don't understand where I'm at and it was a lot harder for Steve Jobs 22:32.290 --> 22:36.770 Your inner circle has to tighten. You don't have to live your life for other people. You don't have to live your life for 22:36.770 --> 22:40.170 Neurotypical I don't think that the guys I'm reading about took time to relax 22:40.170 --> 22:42.510 If you don't want to take time to relax don't take time to relax 22:43.150 --> 22:48.150 Don't let other people project their values on to you because they are not you and it seems so simple 22:48.150 --> 22:51.890 And yet I we've had thousands of clients over the years and I can't tell you how many people 22:52.630 --> 22:55.870 Don't make the move because somebody holds them back. It may be their wife. It may be their girlfriend 22:55.870 --> 23:00.190 I've told the story of the guy who was on the phone crying with me because he wanted not just the tax savings 23:00.190 --> 23:04.230 But the adventure of seeing the world. That's what he wanted to be the label that he affects one 23:04.230 --> 23:10.010 He chose for himself and he couldn't make the choice to remove himself from the girlfriend that didn't want to do that 23:10.770 --> 23:15.470 Don't let people project their values on to you. You can only accept that most people aren't like you 23:16.550 --> 23:22.350 Maybe you are wired differently, but you have to accept that and Tony Fernandez was the CEO of AirAsia 23:22.350 --> 23:25.830 He talked at NoMed Capitalist Live this year people asked him how did he do this? How did he do that? 23:25.910 --> 23:29.830 His answer every time was we just did it and I really at first I thought you know, it's kind of a bad answer 23:29.830 --> 23:34.390 Yeah, it's easy. We just did it. You see a lot of these these billionaires. How did you do that thing in your business? 23:34.550 --> 23:36.330 I just did it. It seems so simple 23:36.330 --> 23:40.030 There must be some secret sauce and then I realized the secret sauce is complicating it 23:40.470 --> 23:45.410 The secret sauce is what the other airlines deal with there's three different committees and and seven person 23:45.410 --> 23:49.830 You know meetings or 70 person meetings perhaps an endless forms and reviews and all that 23:49.830 --> 23:55.090 At AirAsia Tony Fernandez says let's hire more female pilots puts the word up. They hire more female pilots 23:55.090 --> 23:59.650 I realized I live that way and I think probably you think that way in many ways 23:59.650 --> 24:01.090 It's just you go out and do it 24:01.090 --> 24:06.670 The average person doesn't think that way and giving yourself the permission slip gives you the chance to go out and build your 24:06.670 --> 24:09.990 Legacy and again, I I don't know I've built 24:10.790 --> 24:13.050 the vast vast vast part of my 24:13.570 --> 24:19.030 Wealth and legacy and impact being outside of where I'm from. I don't think that's coincidental and I think just accepting 24:19.030 --> 24:23.390 Yeah, other people are different people who work for you. They're different the average person you're going to meet 24:23.390 --> 24:29.250 They're different. There's an acceptance of just accepting it. It is what it is. Yeah, sounds like a bad answer, but 24:29.890 --> 24:35.550 They're never going to be like you and embracing the power of being different rather than sitting in the isolation 24:35.550 --> 24:39.430 I think that's one thing that holds a lot of people back from making the move into this life 24:39.430 --> 24:43.530 That we talked about is they feel to be isolated. None of my friends or family understand great 24:44.070 --> 24:49.930 Only by stepping into the light and being who you truly want to be will you find people who truly embrace who you are because the 24:49.930 --> 24:56.030 People who aren't at my birthday party tonight because they didn't want to stay in touch because I don't live one mile down the road anymore 24:56.570 --> 25:02.930 aren't as impactful of friends to me and the journey that I'm living as the ones who have stuck 25:03.410 --> 25:07.370 With me and that's been the big progress me in the last year is 25:08.370 --> 25:09.530 Something just had to click 25:10.170 --> 25:14.830 There are people that I trust more than I ever trusted those people where I happen to be from 25:14.830 --> 25:20.310 I think that we leave so many things and I like to chance the friends we make the person we marry 25:20.810 --> 25:25.090 The business we build all the things that we do just so happens to be down the block and around the corner 25:25.090 --> 25:29.690 That seems crazy to me that you wouldn't consider maybe the perfect person for you is halfway around the world 25:29.690 --> 25:35.430 Maybe the best friends are in some other country clicking that wow I've built this over so many years 25:35.430 --> 25:41.570 I have people I trust more instinctively than I ever did before I have people I know more deeply than I ever did before 25:41.570 --> 25:44.790 Yes, not everybody is aligned with me. Yes, some people hate what I do 25:44.790 --> 25:46.350 They hate me for it 25:46.350 --> 25:52.290 but none of that matters because I think finally when you get to this point in life and for me it probably came later than 25:52.290 --> 25:54.090 For that it should have or did for many of you 25:54.090 --> 25:59.370 I realized I had to love myself and the mission I'm on regardless of anybody was with me and only by doing that 25:59.370 --> 26:03.350 Did I realize how many people were indeed with me someone is not with me tonight? 26:04.810 --> 26:07.990 He was perhaps not a friend, but was an acquaintance. We were friendly 26:07.990 --> 26:11.730 He was a lawyer of mine for many years and it realized all the time. He was only three weeks older 26:12.510 --> 26:17.570 Than I was he was referred to me many years ago. I one of the friends I've known for about 20 years 26:17.570 --> 26:19.550 Never had any real serious issues 26:19.550 --> 26:22.510 I would use him as a lawyer to review the occasional contractor 26:22.510 --> 26:27.830 Send the occasional demand letter when someone used one of our trademarks or something silly like that 26:27.830 --> 26:31.510 And I'd call him up. I always knew I was probably one of the smallest clients 26:31.510 --> 26:33.390 He took me on because he knew my friend 26:34.070 --> 26:37.930 He didn't make a lot of money, but he always made me feel heard 26:38.650 --> 26:44.850 Because he had a curiosity about what we do here. We talk about whatever mundane issue and then they'd say 26:44.850 --> 26:49.610 Hey, Andrew, I'm gonna stock the clock here. You know, tell me what you're doing with this nomad campus 26:49.610 --> 26:52.870 And what is it? What is his lifestyle that you lead? 26:53.350 --> 27:01.150 Jack the lawyer was someone who took a greater interest in a way that I've realized over the years since I met him 27:01.710 --> 27:08.270 Is pretty rare. Most people don't take an interest. Most people don't want to understand even fewer will actually understand 27:09.110 --> 27:11.310 I remember the time when 27:11.790 --> 27:19.370 After one of those teta tats about what I'm doing or where I'm going or why Montenegro or Columbia was a particular interest to me said 27:20.150 --> 27:24.530 That he had cancer. I was probably 36 or so at the time 27:24.530 --> 27:29.450 I figured he was a little bit older and I said, hey guy at this age. He's gonna go. He's gonna get treated 27:30.190 --> 27:38.370 It is going to be taken care. I'm sure he'll be back eventually and it was and he was back and we went on like 27:38.950 --> 27:42.090 Nothing had changed and all these years that we worked together 27:43.250 --> 27:46.990 I imagined even though we didn't talk that often or ever about anything that serious 27:47.650 --> 27:52.830 That one of these days he would come and join me for a dinner like the one we have tonight because 27:52.830 --> 27:56.150 When you have people who understand you you want to make them a part of your life 27:56.150 --> 27:59.710 You want to involve them in the things you're doing and last year 28:00.530 --> 28:03.970 Right up at the time was at the last nomadic capitalist live. I was 28:04.550 --> 28:05.070 sending him 28:05.810 --> 28:11.330 Some things saying are you sure we're 100% okay on this silly little thing? I just want to double check 28:11.950 --> 28:13.470 And he said yeah, Andrew, you know what? 28:14.190 --> 28:15.370 I'm at the hospital now 28:15.950 --> 28:17.670 My cancer came back 28:19.850 --> 28:21.570 And hadn't talked to him for a while 28:22.070 --> 28:24.970 It didn't talk to him all throughout the year got the call 28:25.750 --> 28:28.850 This june about four months ago that he'd been transferred to hospice 28:29.570 --> 28:34.690 And in july this 39 year old lawyer who I'd known for 28:35.550 --> 28:36.670 Close to a decade 28:37.910 --> 28:38.430 I 28:38.430 --> 28:41.090 sent a final message to him saying 28:41.790 --> 28:48.450 What I've reflected on and what I'm thinking about today being 40 years old a thing that I probably didn't think about 28:48.450 --> 28:51.230 Nearly as well back when he and I first met 28:51.230 --> 28:57.890 I sent him a message a text message saying how much his understanding me in seeking to understand had meant to me 28:58.870 --> 29:02.470 Unfortunately that text message would never have 29:03.150 --> 29:03.970 been read 29:04.630 --> 29:06.790 it was not to be as 29:07.570 --> 29:08.090 the 29:09.030 --> 29:10.410 obituary said he 29:11.390 --> 29:13.330 Had been asleep for many days 29:13.970 --> 29:15.290 Finally had woken up 29:15.950 --> 29:18.310 And opened his eyes for the first time in many days to tell 29:18.870 --> 29:20.790 His wife a woman who 29:21.330 --> 29:24.410 Was from mexico when he had children with and we would talk in those 29:24.950 --> 29:26.230 Little teta tats about that 29:26.230 --> 29:32.170 I'd hoped he would get the mexican citizenship for his children because I deeply believe in what we do when I wanted him to 29:32.770 --> 29:34.890 do that not as any strategic thing, but just 29:34.890 --> 29:40.550 So that was the right thing to do he woke up to tell his wife that he 29:42.090 --> 29:46.190 Loved her, but he could not speak and then stopped breathing 29:47.630 --> 29:53.550 Forever he'd battled with cancer for years to paint her back to his body organs and bones leaving him motionless and defenseless 29:54.010 --> 29:54.810 never once 29:55.450 --> 29:56.250 did he 29:57.810 --> 30:02.470 Complain he was someone who in his own way lived his passions. He's came from a family of attorneys 30:03.170 --> 30:06.210 Chose to take his own permission slip that his parents had given him 30:06.210 --> 30:09.850 Just as my father gave me one to go where you're treated best. He chose the permission slip 30:09.850 --> 30:13.510 You don't have to become a lawyer. He didn't even go to university. He chose to 30:14.050 --> 30:18.890 Dig into science was a published science writer and science fiction novelist eventually 30:18.890 --> 30:25.950 He did come around to join the family profession joined the bar in the first attempt became one of the best lawyers in his state one 30:26.710 --> 30:30.330 record setting judgments was involved politically was 30:30.970 --> 30:36.930 Well loved by many and yes like any of us who have achieved something had one or two people who had something bad to say from him 30:36.930 --> 30:41.910 But I realized that he was one of the good ones and I realized now so much 30:42.750 --> 30:47.070 How impactful it was to have that person who didn't 30:47.670 --> 30:54.830 Necessarily want to do what I did but in a way that so many people didn't seek sought to understand me and 30:55.870 --> 30:58.030 Did understand and gave 30:58.030 --> 31:01.870 A sense of acceptance 31:02.590 --> 31:04.250 This is not a 31:04.790 --> 31:08.010 harangue to go and check your health although 31:08.870 --> 31:10.870 anyone at 39 years old 31:10.870 --> 31:16.910 Who would pass away from cancer is certainly a harbinger that we all should take 31:17.910 --> 31:18.350 Greater 31:18.870 --> 31:23.310 Tension for our health and when we did meet many of us last month in qualum poor 31:23.310 --> 31:26.550 I took some a small pride in saying that prince court medical center 31:26.550 --> 31:29.390 Which we've talked to you about so often was booked out for a month and a half 31:29.390 --> 31:33.610 Many of them with people coming to know mad capitalist life who wanted to take care of their health one of those people found 31:34.070 --> 31:39.850 A condition they will now treat they never imagined they would have it. They will now take care of it and 31:40.510 --> 31:46.970 It is a reminder little as I may be to be the person to tell you to take care of your health that you should do that 31:47.630 --> 31:50.230 It is just as much reminder jack the lawyer 31:50.730 --> 31:55.490 Who leaves behind a wife and three kids that those people who? 31:57.630 --> 32:00.410 Accept as as we are are to be held close 32:00.410 --> 32:05.350 I know we'd also want us to pursue our passions and for those of you sitting in your country tonight 32:06.110 --> 32:08.410 Worried about taking the next step. I can only tell you 32:09.130 --> 32:12.750 We should live every day for what it is. It's cliche as that may be 32:12.750 --> 32:15.830 I look back on all these years and it only hits me now 32:15.830 --> 32:20.450 Just how impactful it's been for me to live in different places and meet different people around the world and it's 32:21.050 --> 32:25.850 A sort of rush that has changed who I am for the second half of my life 32:27.510 --> 32:27.950 As 32:28.710 --> 32:29.150 we 32:29.910 --> 32:35.230 Say goodbye me and my team to jack the lawyer 1984 to 2024 someone 32:35.810 --> 32:40.310 That had an impact on my life to live every day as if it was your last 32:41.810 --> 32:42.750 Godspeed old friend 32:44.070 --> 32:44.550 Godspeed