WEBVTT 00:17.490 --> 00:17.990 Hey everybody. 00:18.590 --> 00:23.310 So we're gonna get back to our larger documentary projects 00:23.310 --> 00:25.450 because that's really where our hearts lie. 00:26.110 --> 00:30.950 And this whole situation that is unfolding is... 00:30.950 --> 00:33.530 We have a secret language now, okay? 00:34.250 --> 00:38.390 And she's leaving us Easter eggs in our secret language. 00:39.010 --> 00:40.610 It's like a train wreck. 00:40.810 --> 00:42.390 It is very hard to look away from it, 00:42.390 --> 00:43.390 but I think I'm gonna have to 00:43.390 --> 00:45.870 because it's like staring into the abyss for real. 00:46.630 --> 00:48.410 But this is one more thing. 00:48.850 --> 00:50.850 I have to, I can't help it. 00:50.930 --> 00:53.210 We have to have this discussion because this is happening. 00:53.890 --> 00:55.610 Ivy League students, this is a headline 00:55.610 --> 00:56.530 and it's not a parody. 00:56.770 --> 00:57.350 This isn't the onion. 00:57.650 --> 00:59.790 This is an actual headline. 01:00.410 --> 01:02.230 Ivy League students offered crayons, 01:02.370 --> 01:04.270 Legos and cookies with milk 01:04.690 --> 01:06.890 to cope with Trump's election win. 01:08.090 --> 01:11.490 Harvard and Penn State are giving students the day off. 01:11.750 --> 01:13.310 There are professors at Princeton 01:13.310 --> 01:14.950 who are postponing exams. 01:14.950 --> 01:18.590 There are students at various schools 01:18.590 --> 01:23.050 who are allowing their grades to be changed later 01:23.050 --> 01:25.170 for the stress they have now gone through 01:25.170 --> 01:26.150 during this election. 01:26.430 --> 01:27.670 They're getting out of homework. 01:27.990 --> 01:28.890 They're getting out of class. 01:29.450 --> 01:33.190 And Georgetown University built a self care suite. 01:33.710 --> 01:36.370 This is the level that things are at 01:36.370 --> 01:38.630 in Ivy League colleges. 01:38.990 --> 01:40.430 I don't even know anymore 01:40.430 --> 01:42.570 how much is being charged to these kids 01:42.570 --> 01:44.270 and their families for going to these 01:44.270 --> 01:46.750 very, very expensive schools 01:46.750 --> 01:49.750 that we're supposed to in our society revere 01:49.750 --> 01:54.810 as the most elite educational facilities we have. 01:55.590 --> 01:57.990 And this is the way that they are treating 01:58.530 --> 02:00.030 their adult students. 02:00.830 --> 02:03.050 You had professors at Columbia University 02:03.050 --> 02:06.190 and at sister school Barnard sending emails 02:06.190 --> 02:08.870 for people to take school off 02:08.870 --> 02:10.370 and take care of themselves. 02:11.050 --> 02:12.950 The classes are being canceled 02:13.470 --> 02:15.330 and we just need to breathe. 02:15.710 --> 02:18.230 We all just need to breathe because it's so heavy 02:18.930 --> 02:21.210 but they'll remain, they'll keep the classroom open 02:21.210 --> 02:23.410 for people to come if they want a space to reflect. 02:24.110 --> 02:25.810 An adjunct professor of international 02:25.810 --> 02:27.030 and public affairs at Columbia 02:27.030 --> 02:29.810 who apparently served on the Obama administration 02:29.810 --> 02:31.730 White House Council on Women and Girls 02:31.730 --> 02:33.210 canceled class and said, 02:33.990 --> 02:35.850 although I planned a tentative lecture 02:35.850 --> 02:38.470 on modern polling methods in their blind spots, 02:38.800 --> 02:41.790 it feels a bit tone deaf to deliver that today. 02:42.330 --> 02:43.570 You mean the day after an election? 02:43.910 --> 02:46.430 That is the perfect time to deliver a class 02:46.430 --> 02:48.430 on misleading polling methods. 02:48.570 --> 02:50.730 That's exactly the time you wanna deliver that class. 02:51.050 --> 02:52.390 Why would that be tone deaf? 02:52.910 --> 02:55.450 Organizers at Dartmouth encourage students 02:55.450 --> 02:57.870 to be off the grid the day after election 02:57.870 --> 03:01.670 or come back to attend a decompression dinner, 03:02.470 --> 03:06.210 bring a book or a craft to a listening circle 03:06.530 --> 03:08.170 for the supportive environment, 03:08.930 --> 03:10.910 about the reflections, about the, 03:10.990 --> 03:13.150 they're treating these people like their children. 03:13.670 --> 03:14.430 Look at this headline, 03:15.010 --> 03:18.370 LEGO's cocoa and coloring books for Georgetown students. 03:19.150 --> 03:21.470 At the McCourt School of Public Policy, 03:21.530 --> 03:24.510 officials are offering mindfulness options. 03:25.250 --> 03:26.250 Now look at this agenda, 03:26.530 --> 03:29.130 which comes from the school's director 03:29.130 --> 03:30.150 of student engagement. 03:30.590 --> 03:34.190 T-Coco self-care, a LEGO station, 03:34.730 --> 03:36.790 coloring and mindfulness exercises, 03:37.050 --> 03:39.210 milk and cookies and LEGOs, 03:39.270 --> 03:43.770 snacks and self-guided meditation to recover from this. 03:43.970 --> 03:46.770 There are more educational activities 03:46.770 --> 03:48.670 taking place in preschools than this. 03:48.910 --> 03:50.750 I just wanna point that out, look at this. 03:51.290 --> 03:53.610 In recognition of these stressful times, 03:54.070 --> 03:56.230 be good to yourselves, check in on your friends, 03:56.330 --> 03:58.990 they're acting like 9-11 happened and it was an election. 03:59.730 --> 04:02.190 You know, I was in college in the 2000s, 04:02.190 --> 04:05.630 I was driving to campus on the day 9-11 happened, 04:06.130 --> 04:09.710 listening to NPR, wondering if the country was at war 04:09.710 --> 04:11.710 cause we had no idea what was going on 04:11.710 --> 04:13.270 and we all went to school 04:13.270 --> 04:16.530 and did they offer us milk and cookies and LEGOs on 9-11? 04:16.770 --> 04:18.790 No they didn't, no they didn't. 04:18.990 --> 04:20.690 They did let people go home though 04:20.690 --> 04:22.250 because everyone was very upset 04:22.250 --> 04:23.850 and we did not know what was going to happen 04:23.850 --> 04:25.730 and thousands of people were dead. 04:26.230 --> 04:29.690 So it actually was a stressful event. 04:30.450 --> 04:34.010 An election is something that happens every four years. 04:34.690 --> 04:37.510 Every four years, this is gonna happen in four more years. 04:38.190 --> 04:40.390 This is just reality in this country, 04:40.490 --> 04:42.310 that's how our election process works. 04:42.910 --> 04:45.170 And by the way, the McCourt, 04:45.670 --> 04:49.030 the Georgetown University McCourt School of Public Policy, 04:49.690 --> 04:52.610 these are people that are going to affect diplomacy 04:53.110 --> 04:54.670 in the future with these degrees. 04:54.810 --> 04:56.830 They offer undergraduate and master's degrees 04:57.390 --> 04:58.550 in public policy. 04:59.170 --> 05:01.290 It says right here on their website 05:01.290 --> 05:03.390 that their foundational skill set 05:03.390 --> 05:06.110 is based around things like critical thinking 05:06.530 --> 05:08.150 and engaging with bias. 05:08.430 --> 05:09.690 It actually says that here, 05:10.170 --> 05:13.050 that engaging with bias is having the ability 05:13.050 --> 05:14.910 to relate to and learn from people 05:14.910 --> 05:16.690 with different backgrounds and perspectives 05:17.410 --> 05:18.610 and being open to evidence 05:18.610 --> 05:20.570 that may challenge your prior conception. 05:21.150 --> 05:23.510 But they obviously don't think their students can do so. 05:23.850 --> 05:25.450 They don't even think their students can handle 05:25.450 --> 05:26.930 of the basics of an election 05:26.930 --> 05:29.030 that they didn't get the person they wanted elected 05:29.030 --> 05:30.090 in the election. 05:30.250 --> 05:32.470 They're giving them milk and cookies and coloring books. 05:32.830 --> 05:34.550 And they did this at other schools too. 05:34.630 --> 05:37.130 There's many, many schools like Missouri State University 05:37.730 --> 05:41.690 had a self-care no phone zone space 05:41.690 --> 05:43.610 with coloring pages, calm jars. 05:43.890 --> 05:45.010 I don't know what a calm jar is. 05:45.150 --> 05:47.750 Calm jars, coloring pages and sensory fidgets. 05:48.350 --> 05:50.170 Northwestern University offered students 05:50.170 --> 05:52.730 a post-election wellness space with puzzles, crafts, 05:52.970 --> 05:55.530 games, snacks and brain break activities. 05:55.870 --> 05:59.650 And Princeton offered art build processing space. 06:00.110 --> 06:03.710 Harvard Divinity School had a whole community care day 06:03.710 --> 06:07.750 which included office hours with sunshine, the puppet. 06:08.290 --> 06:10.970 I just, office hours with a puppet. 06:11.210 --> 06:12.870 Okay, okay, okay. 06:13.430 --> 06:16.190 Because the election was so devastating for these people 06:16.190 --> 06:18.990 that it says many of us are feeling frustrated, 06:18.990 --> 06:21.190 scared and uncertain, a whole mishmash 06:21.190 --> 06:22.790 of mostly not good emotions. 06:22.790 --> 06:25.630 I mean, you could pull that sentence off of here 06:25.630 --> 06:28.530 and you could put it in the mouth of one of those people 06:28.530 --> 06:32.010 that has puppets, like a puppet show, like Sesame Street. 06:32.450 --> 06:34.090 That's the way they used to talk to us 06:34.090 --> 06:36.170 when we used to watch Sesame Street 06:36.170 --> 06:37.810 when I was like five years old. 06:38.050 --> 06:39.910 And that's how they're talking to adults. 06:40.670 --> 06:44.630 Professors at Columbia are making classes optional 06:45.370 --> 06:48.010 and giving students passes on exam work 06:48.010 --> 06:51.010 and they're giving people participation points 06:51.010 --> 06:54.370 in biology classes now, even if they don't show up 06:54.370 --> 06:55.970 and they're allowing students to replace 06:55.970 --> 06:58.390 their midterm exam grades with their final grades 06:58.390 --> 07:02.370 if they do poorly in recognition of the increased quote, 07:02.770 --> 07:04.810 stress some of you might be feeling 07:04.810 --> 07:06.750 because of the election results. 07:07.330 --> 07:08.930 At Emory School of Medicine, 07:09.310 --> 07:12.150 which presumably is a school that teaches doctors 07:12.150 --> 07:13.390 how to be doctors, 07:14.350 --> 07:16.350 deans and administrators are sending emails 07:16.350 --> 07:19.830 to residents and fellows to check in post-election 07:19.830 --> 07:22.270 to ask if they have any feelings of anxiety 07:22.270 --> 07:25.890 about the future and reiterate that they are there for them 07:25.890 --> 07:27.750 during these challenging moments. 07:28.210 --> 07:32.130 They are treating these people like babies. 07:32.630 --> 07:34.770 They're treating them like little tiny babies. 07:35.430 --> 07:36.510 I went over to Yale, 07:37.070 --> 07:38.770 tried to see what was going on over there 07:38.770 --> 07:41.150 and I came across this article 07:41.150 --> 07:43.710 and this is where I actually just stopped and went, 07:43.830 --> 07:47.850 okay, I obviously just am so in another reality 07:47.850 --> 07:49.470 that I didn't realize this is the level 07:49.470 --> 07:50.510 that we're at in this country. 07:50.670 --> 07:52.090 Like I obviously just don't. 07:52.210 --> 07:54.330 I obviously just don't know where we even are anymore 07:54.330 --> 07:57.190 as an adult living in America in 2024 07:57.190 --> 07:58.990 because this is a headline. 07:59.550 --> 08:02.290 Yale bleeds champion's menstrual equity 08:02.290 --> 08:04.750 and social justice on campus and beyond. 08:05.450 --> 08:05.690 What? 08:06.290 --> 08:07.990 Through workshops, art and community partnerships, 08:08.290 --> 08:09.710 Yale's menstrual equity organization 08:09.710 --> 08:13.030 tackles period poverty challenges stigma 08:13.030 --> 08:15.530 and confronts institutional barriers to access. 08:15.970 --> 08:17.110 I had to go look some of this up. 08:17.110 --> 08:19.810 Apparently it actually just has to do with 08:19.810 --> 08:21.690 some people can't afford tampons 08:21.690 --> 08:23.870 and so they're gonna get it to where people 08:23.870 --> 08:25.750 can have those in the bathrooms on campus. 08:25.890 --> 08:26.810 Well, that makes total sense. 08:26.970 --> 08:29.250 They used to have them in the bathrooms on campus anyway. 08:30.270 --> 08:32.170 So I don't know what's happening now 08:32.170 --> 08:34.150 that we have to act like it's not equal anymore 08:34.770 --> 08:36.950 that half of the population has a period 08:37.330 --> 08:38.730 but then you go down in here 08:39.290 --> 08:40.850 and it's talking about how they're having 08:40.850 --> 08:42.770 abstractionist painting workshops 08:43.390 --> 08:46.790 using the colors associated with period blood textures 08:46.790 --> 08:48.950 and smells at the sentence 08:49.670 --> 08:54.110 to facilitate engagement to focus on your identity 08:54.110 --> 08:55.410 as a menstruator. 08:55.970 --> 08:57.770 And that's in quotes, menstruator. 08:58.090 --> 09:01.150 And that they're gonna do it the day after election day 09:01.150 --> 09:03.930 because it's really important to provide a space 09:03.930 --> 09:05.810 for students to process their feelings 09:05.810 --> 09:09.030 about the incoming administration and reproductive health. 09:09.550 --> 09:11.190 And tomorrow they're gonna have 09:11.190 --> 09:13.250 a uterus cookie making workshop. 09:13.610 --> 09:14.370 This is a thing. 09:14.570 --> 09:16.650 I'm just, look, this is on their website. 09:16.650 --> 09:17.470 This is reality. 09:17.650 --> 09:19.450 This is not an SNL sketch. 09:19.750 --> 09:20.750 This is real life. 09:20.890 --> 09:23.350 They're gonna paint pictures with the textures 09:23.350 --> 09:24.790 and smells of period blood 09:24.790 --> 09:26.330 and then make uterus cookies at Yale. 09:26.490 --> 09:27.090 That's what they're doing. 09:27.350 --> 09:28.490 That's what they're doing, okay? 09:28.830 --> 09:31.010 As menstruators, which by the way, 09:31.110 --> 09:33.390 as a woman feels incredibly dehumanizing 09:33.390 --> 09:37.010 to, we're not gonna call ourselves women anymore. 09:37.150 --> 09:39.630 We're gonna call ourselves our bodily functions now. 09:39.870 --> 09:41.310 It's incompletely dehumanizing. 09:41.390 --> 09:43.790 I feel like it's completely dehumanizing and gross. 09:43.990 --> 09:45.610 I actually think it's gross personally 09:45.610 --> 09:48.470 but, hey, you wanna call yourself a menstruator? 09:48.610 --> 09:48.910 Fine. 09:49.690 --> 09:52.110 But I feel like it's incredibly dehumanized. 09:52.230 --> 09:53.950 I mean, are people who take dumps 09:53.950 --> 09:54.950 gonna start calling themselves? 09:55.810 --> 09:56.470 You see what I'm saying? 09:56.710 --> 09:58.130 Like, we could do this all day. 09:58.430 --> 10:00.110 That's just a thing your body does. 10:00.650 --> 10:02.290 How is that an identity now? 10:02.890 --> 10:05.870 I just don't understand this. 10:06.430 --> 10:08.190 I actually don't comprehend it. 10:08.410 --> 10:11.190 And so I'm gonna use a word that I've been using all year 10:11.190 --> 10:13.890 which Erin says is now a drinking game in our house 10:13.890 --> 10:15.330 because of how many times I brought it up 10:15.330 --> 10:17.790 but it's called infantilizing. 10:18.710 --> 10:20.630 Infantilization, that's absolutely correct. 10:21.650 --> 10:22.050 Infantilization. 10:24.850 --> 10:26.390 I'm sorry, you're really lucky 10:26.390 --> 10:27.930 I didn't bust out laughing earlier. 10:28.530 --> 10:29.590 It's a real word. 10:30.070 --> 10:32.170 And this is what these schools are doing to these people. 10:32.270 --> 10:33.070 These are supposed to be people, 10:33.330 --> 10:34.450 they are supposed to be adults. 10:34.690 --> 10:35.490 These are supposed to be adults. 10:35.790 --> 10:37.830 This is our future in this country 10:38.290 --> 10:39.370 at these Ivy League schools. 10:39.850 --> 10:41.910 And they're treating them like they're five years old 10:41.910 --> 10:43.430 or even in just preschool. 10:43.970 --> 10:46.250 So infantilization is a verb and it means 10:46.250 --> 10:49.130 to treat or condescend to as if still a young child 10:49.130 --> 10:51.310 to reduce to an infantile state or condition, 10:51.610 --> 10:54.410 to reduce a person to the state or status of an infant, 10:55.010 --> 10:58.390 to keep someone infantile, to treat them like a baby. 10:58.670 --> 10:59.870 That's infantilize. 11:00.270 --> 11:01.470 This is infantilization. 11:01.670 --> 11:04.030 It is institutional infantilization 11:04.030 --> 11:07.310 by just telling these kids that 11:07.310 --> 11:09.250 you should come have milk and cookies 11:09.250 --> 11:10.290 and play with Legos. 11:10.450 --> 11:12.990 You're actually giving them the message 11:12.990 --> 11:15.170 that that's how they should respond. 11:15.650 --> 11:19.030 That these meltdowns, that these complete breakdowns, 11:19.070 --> 11:21.590 these inabilities to handle reality are normal. 11:21.950 --> 11:24.030 You're normalizing this behavior. 11:24.630 --> 11:25.450 This is what you're doing. 11:25.650 --> 11:27.570 As a school, as an institutional practice, 11:27.710 --> 11:30.270 you're normalizing the infantilization of adults. 11:30.750 --> 11:32.390 Practically ensuring that next election 11:32.390 --> 11:33.230 they're gonna act worse 11:33.750 --> 11:35.210 and be able to handle it even less. 11:35.630 --> 11:37.010 That is what is being done to this. 11:37.030 --> 11:38.050 This is actually a disservice. 11:38.770 --> 11:39.870 This is actually harmful. 11:40.090 --> 11:41.010 I think this is harmful. 11:41.490 --> 11:46.350 And you have charts being put out like this one, this map. 11:46.810 --> 11:49.570 If the election, if having a degree was a requirement 11:49.570 --> 11:50.690 to vote in this election, 11:51.010 --> 11:52.570 this is what it would have looked like. 11:52.930 --> 11:54.290 Because far and away, 11:54.610 --> 11:57.150 the vast majority of our universities and colleges 11:57.530 --> 11:59.070 are left-leaning institutions. 11:59.710 --> 12:01.970 You've had studies put out on this. 12:02.270 --> 12:04.550 Back in 2020, Democratic professors 12:04.550 --> 12:07.590 outnumber Republican ones nine to one. 12:07.590 --> 12:09.050 There was a whole thing that came out 12:09.050 --> 12:10.830 of the National Association of Scholars 12:10.830 --> 12:12.210 and they talked about this, 12:12.390 --> 12:16.150 how this divide has grown rapidly. 12:17.250 --> 12:19.430 And it says the concern is grounded in research 12:19.430 --> 12:21.430 on confirmation bias, group polarization, 12:21.690 --> 12:23.050 motivated reasoning and the tendency 12:23.050 --> 12:25.090 for these phenomena to be even more pronounced 12:25.090 --> 12:26.550 among the highly educated. 12:26.970 --> 12:29.450 Consistent findings from this work 12:29.450 --> 12:32.790 is that although the ratio of faculty who identify 12:32.790 --> 12:35.370 and are registered as Democratic versus Republican 12:35.370 --> 12:36.730 varies across departments, 12:36.730 --> 12:39.810 it almost always favors the Democratic party. 12:40.570 --> 12:43.110 Secondly, Democratic to Republican registration ratio 12:43.110 --> 12:44.490 is typically higher among disciplines 12:44.490 --> 12:46.170 in the humanities and social sciences 12:46.170 --> 12:48.490 as compared to the natural sciences and engineering. 12:49.070 --> 12:52.270 Third, Democratic to Republican registration ratio 12:52.270 --> 12:53.370 has increased over time. 12:53.510 --> 12:55.770 It was 4.5 to one in 1999. 12:56.190 --> 12:57.870 Now it's 10 to one today 12:57.870 --> 13:00.030 among elite liberal arts colleges 13:00.030 --> 13:01.310 and social science departments. 13:01.730 --> 13:04.790 And that the partisan slant is the most extreme 13:04.790 --> 13:07.090 in the most highly rated institutions. 13:08.390 --> 13:11.830 So I don't know why it's being put out here 13:11.830 --> 13:13.690 that it's a measure of intelligence 13:14.270 --> 13:18.330 to say that if you send a bunch of 18 year olds 13:18.330 --> 13:21.690 to extremely left leaning institutions 13:22.190 --> 13:24.450 they are going to emerge also left leaning 13:25.010 --> 13:27.570 when almost all of their professors are left leaning. 13:27.870 --> 13:29.530 Why is that a surprise to anyone? 13:29.830 --> 13:31.230 That that is how it would go down. 13:31.350 --> 13:33.770 You're sending people there in their very formative years 13:33.770 --> 13:36.250 where they're very first becoming adults from children 13:36.930 --> 13:40.030 and they're surrounded with extremely left leaning 13:40.030 --> 13:41.050 partisan people. 13:41.570 --> 13:43.470 You think that's not coming across in their classes? 13:43.910 --> 13:45.690 Some of that was coming across in my classes 13:45.690 --> 13:46.630 even back in the day. 13:47.130 --> 13:49.330 But it wasn't as pronounced as it is now. 13:49.890 --> 13:52.030 So they're overwhelmingly liberal 13:52.030 --> 13:54.330 and then of course the people who graduate from there 13:54.330 --> 13:56.430 become liberal, that makes sense. 13:56.970 --> 13:59.810 I don't know why, like that's not a measure of, 14:00.370 --> 14:01.910 well that just means that all Democrats 14:01.910 --> 14:02.970 are more intelligent. 14:02.970 --> 14:05.890 It means that the majority of our higher learning 14:05.890 --> 14:07.130 institutions are Democrat 14:07.570 --> 14:10.450 and they're shaping the foundational views 14:10.450 --> 14:13.550 of emerging adults who are also Democrat 14:13.550 --> 14:14.610 after they leave there. 14:14.910 --> 14:17.370 Ashley St. Clair shared this map actually 14:17.370 --> 14:19.450 and she said, what do you call an institution 14:19.450 --> 14:20.950 in which everybody who enters it 14:20.950 --> 14:23.270 leaves with a uniform political ideology? 14:23.870 --> 14:25.170 I mean that's what's going on. 14:25.510 --> 14:28.030 So now we're infantilizing people 14:28.030 --> 14:30.070 and it's not just the people who go to these colleges 14:30.070 --> 14:32.410 it's not just the leaders of tomorrow 14:32.410 --> 14:34.130 who are going to these Ivy League institutions 14:34.130 --> 14:36.670 who are coming out this way. 14:37.110 --> 14:42.230 You have MSNBC having a Yale University 14:42.230 --> 14:45.610 child psychology fellow going on the air. 14:45.910 --> 14:47.990 So they're doing kind of an appeal to authority, 14:48.330 --> 14:50.210 trust the experts type of deal 14:50.210 --> 14:52.830 by having a Yale child psychology fellow 14:52.830 --> 14:54.150 come on the air and talk to everyone. 14:54.770 --> 14:57.590 Telling people to cut their friends and family out 14:57.590 --> 14:58.910 who didn't vote the way they, 14:59.170 --> 15:01.250 who voted for Trump for the holidays. 15:01.610 --> 15:03.410 I think just a societal norm 15:03.410 --> 15:05.630 that if somebody is your family 15:05.630 --> 15:08.270 that they are entitled to your time. 15:08.530 --> 15:11.330 And I think the answer is absolutely not. 15:11.530 --> 15:13.910 So if you are going to a situation 15:13.910 --> 15:15.230 where you have family members, 15:15.430 --> 15:16.650 where you have close friends 15:16.990 --> 15:21.310 who you know have voted in ways that are against you 15:21.310 --> 15:23.350 like what you said against your livelihood 15:24.050 --> 15:27.930 and it's completely fine to not be around those people 15:27.930 --> 15:29.170 and to tell them why. 15:29.170 --> 15:31.190 You know, to say I have a problem 15:31.190 --> 15:32.250 with the way that you voted 15:32.850 --> 15:35.030 because it went against my very livelihood 15:35.030 --> 15:37.290 and I'm not going to be around you this holiday. 15:37.450 --> 15:39.030 I need to take some space for me. 15:39.150 --> 15:41.630 And acting like that's an expert opinion 15:41.630 --> 15:43.490 that it's normal to do that. 15:43.690 --> 15:46.250 That it's normal to cut out your family 15:46.250 --> 15:47.730 if they don't agree with you politically. 15:48.190 --> 15:50.190 Which by the way is exactly what cults do. 15:50.770 --> 15:53.130 Cults isolate people from people 15:53.130 --> 15:54.530 who could challenge their views, 15:54.670 --> 15:57.290 who could challenge the views of the cults. 15:57.290 --> 16:00.290 That is exactly, that's straight out of the cult playbook 16:00.290 --> 16:02.970 of cult programming to isolate people 16:02.970 --> 16:05.050 so that they're only around other people 16:05.050 --> 16:06.370 who share the cult's views. 16:06.630 --> 16:08.130 That's completely what that is. 16:08.270 --> 16:11.870 And they're parading it on the news as if it's news, 16:12.290 --> 16:14.490 this is a thing that's happening to our country. 16:14.730 --> 16:15.430 This is happening. 16:16.190 --> 16:18.330 You know, I don't know what the answer is. 16:18.510 --> 16:20.170 But the other day I watched a video 16:20.650 --> 16:22.690 and I'm not a huge, you guys know on this channel 16:22.690 --> 16:24.790 Ted Talks are not my favorite thing in the world 16:24.790 --> 16:27.330 because a lot of times they're formulaic 16:27.330 --> 16:28.590 and they do the Ted Talk hands 16:28.590 --> 16:30.850 and it makes it very hard to just listen to the person 16:30.850 --> 16:34.410 who's presenting sometimes, feels very contrived. 16:34.930 --> 16:37.910 But I did watch this, Dr. Susan David, 16:38.110 --> 16:40.150 she was talking about emotional intelligence 16:40.750 --> 16:42.690 and she brought up a really good point 16:42.690 --> 16:44.610 that I think needs to be considered. 16:45.090 --> 16:46.090 I like being happy. 16:46.650 --> 16:47.690 I'm a pretty happy person. 16:48.950 --> 16:51.970 But when we push aside normal emotions 16:51.970 --> 16:53.670 to embrace false positivity, 16:54.810 --> 16:57.570 we lose our capacity to develop skills 16:57.570 --> 16:59.890 to deal with the world as it is, 17:00.870 --> 17:02.650 not as we wish it to be. 17:03.170 --> 17:05.110 I think some of that is what is going on. 17:05.350 --> 17:07.270 I saw a person make a video the other day 17:07.270 --> 17:08.230 and they were saying, you know, 17:08.370 --> 17:11.830 I don't know why so many of you on our side, 17:12.270 --> 17:13.610 meaning the Democrat side, 17:13.750 --> 17:15.550 I don't know why so many of you thought 17:15.550 --> 17:19.690 that people were gonna vote based on their identity politics. 17:20.210 --> 17:21.910 When the average person who votes 17:21.910 --> 17:24.750 is voting based on basic things like, 17:24.890 --> 17:27.970 can I afford the cost of living in society? 17:28.590 --> 17:30.530 Well, they thought that because they're coming out 17:30.530 --> 17:34.150 of a very progressive university 17:34.150 --> 17:36.570 that's treating them like their children 17:36.940 --> 17:38.550 who can throw a temper tantrum 17:38.550 --> 17:39.850 when they don't get their way 17:39.850 --> 17:43.670 if I could make a two to three hour documentary right now 17:43.670 --> 17:45.750 with no commentary whatsoever, 17:46.230 --> 17:48.850 just putting videos up of grown adults 17:48.850 --> 17:51.990 behaving like children after this election 17:51.990 --> 17:54.890 and turning on cameras and screaming and crying 17:54.890 --> 17:56.570 and throwing fits and making threats 17:56.570 --> 18:00.150 and melting down in ways that I would have given my child 18:00.150 --> 18:02.410 a time out for when he was little, 18:02.410 --> 18:04.050 if he had behaved that way 18:04.050 --> 18:06.650 and they're behaving that way and they're older than me. 18:06.770 --> 18:08.170 And it goes back to this, 18:08.450 --> 18:11.130 when we push and embrace false positivity, 18:11.530 --> 18:13.010 people are losing their capacity 18:13.010 --> 18:15.930 to develop skills to deal with reality as it is 18:15.930 --> 18:18.230 and not the illusion they have in their minds. 18:18.230 --> 18:20.090 This whole love and light crowd 18:20.090 --> 18:23.050 where it's always good feelings and good vibes all the time 18:23.050 --> 18:25.070 and there's no such thing as a negative emotion. 18:25.270 --> 18:27.610 There's no such thing as anger, frustration and depression. 18:27.890 --> 18:29.070 Can't even have those. 18:29.370 --> 18:32.770 So when you do, it's so alien and all-encompassing 18:32.770 --> 18:34.530 you can't handle how to deal with your, 18:34.850 --> 18:36.370 you have no emotional intelligence 18:36.790 --> 18:38.550 to deal with your negative feelings 18:38.550 --> 18:40.430 which by the way serve a purpose. 18:40.890 --> 18:43.350 And this society has spent way too much time 18:43.350 --> 18:46.730 making people think that if you have a bad feeling 18:46.730 --> 18:49.330 at all, you need to immediately go get a pill for that 18:49.330 --> 18:51.090 because you're not supposed to even have that 18:51.090 --> 18:53.130 and it's not right to have those 18:53.130 --> 18:54.630 but they're there for a reason. 18:55.230 --> 18:56.770 That is how you learn about yourself. 18:57.190 --> 18:59.110 You actually learn what's wrong 18:59.110 --> 19:01.230 and what's actually making you upset 19:01.230 --> 19:04.850 and then you learn how to process those emotions 19:04.850 --> 19:06.310 and deal with them. 19:07.090 --> 19:09.710 And the society is like, live, laugh, love. 19:10.210 --> 19:11.350 Okay, well, that's great. 19:11.790 --> 19:13.130 And being happy is great too 19:13.130 --> 19:16.330 but it's not normal to just be happy all the time. 19:16.850 --> 19:19.450 And whenever they tried to normalize that idea, 19:19.790 --> 19:22.710 I think that's when a lot of this mental illness 19:22.710 --> 19:24.270 became a serious issue. 19:24.610 --> 19:26.970 You can't reject the negative emotions 19:27.490 --> 19:29.030 and pretend they don't exist 19:29.030 --> 19:32.370 and not feel them and not experience what that is. 19:33.070 --> 19:36.090 No amount of milk and cookies is gonna fix that. 19:36.430 --> 19:39.770 And so now you have huge portions of society 19:39.770 --> 19:42.570 who are projecting the negative things 19:42.570 --> 19:44.290 they refuse to face in themselves, 19:44.510 --> 19:46.410 their fears, their anger, their disappointment, 19:46.630 --> 19:47.170 their frustration. 19:47.630 --> 19:49.630 They're projecting it on the rest of society 19:49.630 --> 19:51.430 like their own personal Plato's Cave 19:51.430 --> 19:53.870 because the illusion doesn't match the reality. 19:54.590 --> 19:56.630 And when that happens, breakdown is inevitable. 19:56.990 --> 19:58.730 If you can't face yourself 19:58.730 --> 20:02.130 and your own emotions and truths within yourself, 20:02.710 --> 20:04.870 you're not gonna be able to face it in reality either 20:04.870 --> 20:07.550 but these universities are not helping 20:07.550 --> 20:10.670 by literally coddling and infantilizing these students. 20:10.790 --> 20:11.830 These are supposed to be adults. 20:11.830 --> 20:14.870 I can't believe these are headlines and not parody. 20:15.690 --> 20:17.210 Generations like mine, we were, 20:18.110 --> 20:19.650 I've seen articles now that claim 20:19.650 --> 20:21.290 that if you were born in the 80s, 20:21.370 --> 20:22.830 like you're lucky you aren't dead 20:23.330 --> 20:24.950 because we were just out on our bikes 20:24.950 --> 20:25.930 riding around for hours. 20:26.050 --> 20:27.310 Our parents didn't know where we were. 20:27.770 --> 20:29.910 I would say by the time I was 10 years old, 20:29.910 --> 20:32.530 I was past the milk and cookies phase 20:32.530 --> 20:34.930 for my bad feelings about things that were going on. 20:35.270 --> 20:37.690 So if that tells you anything, 20:38.230 --> 20:40.630 but this is not how we handled anything, 20:40.630 --> 20:42.210 even not that long ago, 20:42.370 --> 20:44.510 I do not know what has happened in this country 20:44.510 --> 20:45.930 that we've gotten to this point, 20:45.990 --> 20:48.970 but this is very, very dangerous 20:48.970 --> 20:53.210 to the future of society actually. 20:53.730 --> 20:55.590 And I wish I had more answers, 20:55.670 --> 20:57.590 but we could at least start with the idea 20:57.590 --> 21:00.390 that emotional intelligence means a full picture, 21:00.530 --> 21:01.950 not just one side. 21:02.470 --> 21:04.410 And I'm just, I guess I'm just ranting again, 21:04.490 --> 21:05.590 but I don't know, 21:05.730 --> 21:07.770 these kind of conversations need to be had somewhere 21:07.770 --> 21:08.970 because this is insane. 21:10.590 --> 21:12.830 And it feels like it's just getting more insane. 21:13.490 --> 21:16.470 I just, as much as people want to pretend 21:16.470 --> 21:17.850 like this isn't what's happening 21:17.850 --> 21:20.170 and be like, well, they just need to grow up. 21:20.230 --> 21:21.590 Well, they're not, they're not growing up. 21:21.770 --> 21:23.770 They're not, clearly they're not growing up. 21:24.030 --> 21:25.490 They're going backwards, they're regressing, 21:25.650 --> 21:26.930 they're Benjamin Button, okay? 21:27.310 --> 21:29.390 And not even back into like a cute little kid, 21:29.450 --> 21:31.430 but into like a bratty spoiled kid 21:31.430 --> 21:33.890 who has no idea how to handle reality. 21:34.170 --> 21:36.490 And this society for years and years now 21:36.490 --> 21:40.470 has really promoted the idea that if you're sad, that's bad. 21:40.690 --> 21:43.850 And you need to go take a pill for that or erase it 21:43.850 --> 21:46.170 instead of facing it and trying to figure out 21:46.170 --> 21:48.050 what is actually bothering you 21:48.050 --> 21:50.110 so that you can actually overcome that. 21:50.510 --> 21:51.850 We're not overcoming things anymore. 21:52.190 --> 21:53.390 We're just prescribing things 21:53.390 --> 21:57.750 and trying to ignore reality all the time. 21:58.050 --> 21:59.890 And that ignoring of reality 21:59.890 --> 22:01.350 may be what has gotten us here. 22:01.430 --> 22:01.650 You know what? 22:01.690 --> 22:04.410 As a society, we have to stop lying to ourselves. 22:05.110 --> 22:06.690 Reality is not a safe space. 22:07.210 --> 22:09.370 It will never be a safe space. 22:09.990 --> 22:13.050 I don't wanna try because I don't wanna feel disappointed 22:14.330 --> 22:17.770 or I just want this feeling to go away. 22:20.510 --> 22:22.250 I understand, I said to them, 22:23.410 --> 22:25.130 but you have dead people's goals. 22:33.860 --> 22:37.320 Only dead people never get unwanted 22:37.320 --> 22:39.580 or inconvenienced by their feelings. 22:40.840 --> 22:43.180 Only dead people never get stressed, 22:43.960 --> 22:45.700 never get broken hearts, 22:46.260 --> 22:48.240 never experience the disappointment 22:48.240 --> 22:50.220 that comes with failure. 22:50.860 --> 22:54.200 Tough emotions are part of our contract with life. 22:55.260 --> 22:57.940 You don't get to have a meaningful career 22:57.940 --> 23:01.900 or raise a family or leave the world a better place 23:01.900 --> 23:04.560 without stress and discomfort. 23:04.560 --> 23:09.560 Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life.